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Too Many Crop Tops… So Many Books

Arg!  The other day I went to the mall to find clothes for my daughter.  It’s come to our attention that she’ll be going to sleep away camp in a couple weeks and, without me there to do laundry constantly, she’ll need a full week’s worth of clothes.  She specifically requested tank tops that are NOT cropped.

Well.  Did you know that’s impossible to find?  At least, at the stores I was at (Hollister, American Eagle, and Aerie.) EVERY SINGLE tank top was also a crop top. I would see a display labeled “tank tops” and would rush over to see this:

Now, it’s not that I object to my daughter walking around scantily-clad (no, I gave up on that a while ago.) But places, like camp and school, have dress codes.  And they usually- school, for sure- involve not showing your stomach.

I know I could shop elsewhere.  But these are the stores and styles she likes.  I can just imagine coming home and saying “All the tank tops at your stores were positively indecent, so I went to Walmart and bought you some sensible shirts instead!”  Ha ha… I don’t think so.

Today she went to camp wearing a tube top with a Pride logo (from Hollister.) This camp seems to be fairly lax, and I haven’t gotten any calls so I guess it’s fine.  I’m not sure how strict the sleep away camp will be, but I know her current wardrobe will not be acceptable for high school.  School starts August 10th and it will be hot here until November, so she really needs tank tops.  Sigh.

Ironically, after I tried and failed to shop for my daughter, I went to Athleta and bought myself… a crop top.

I’ve mentioned it before, but in the heat of summer I can’t stand to have a shirt touching my stomach while I run.  I needed some new shirts, and I had some rewards points left from when I used to have a Gap credit card.  The best thing about that credit card was that the points can be used at Athleta.  Here’s that cropped tank in action:

It looks longer here because by this point it was soaked with sweat.

After the mall, I stopped at the library to pick up a few holds that came in:

So many good books to read!  But first, I have to finish this one:

My son and I both recently read Ender’s Game, and he moved on to the first book in the Ender Saga.  He said that Speaker for the Dead was the BEST BOOK HE’S EVER READ.  With that recommendation, I had to read it too.

This book is a lot of things, but at its core it’s a mystery.  And I love mysteries!  I don’t think I like science fiction quite as much as my son does, but I’m definitely enjoying this book and I love the fact that I can discuss it with my son.  It reminds me of when we both read Harry Potter (ah, the good old days!)

He’s already on to the next book in the series, but I’m going to pause after this one to read some of my library books.  So many books, so little time.

Have you read any of these books?

Any recommendations for cute, non-cropped tank tops for a fourteen-year-old girl?

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I’ve started Edge of Eternity and we are now in the 1960s!  It’s amazing to me how much I actually don’t know.  Yes- I did know there was a wall in Berlin.  But if you asked me when it was built, I would have said… right after WWII?  No!  It was built in 1961, after the US and USSR threatened war over the Berlin crisis.  This was going on during the Civil Rights protests in the US.  What an incredibly turbulent time!  Needless to say, I’m loving this book. This is the third book in Ken Follett’s Century Trilogy, and in between books 2 and 3 I quickly read this: This was a reread, as all Agatha Christies are for me.  I found it at the used bookstore, flipped through it and didn’t recognize any of the character’s names.  I took that as a good sign, and decided to risk it.  So many times I start an Agatha Christie (I read them all at least thirty years ago) and remember the ending about halfway through. Not this time!  I KNOW I read this one, but I truly couldn’t remember it.  I even tried out different “ingenious” solutions: “The narrator is the murderer!  The priest isn’t really a priest!  Someone is a long-lost son!”  Nope.  The ending was a complete surprise.  I really enjoyed this reread! Eating wise… I’ve continued to pretend that it’s not hot, muggy, and steamy here, and made chili!  I while ago I made Vegan Cincinnati Chili from this website. I was planning to make that again, but when I went to the website, I noticed he also has a recipe for “Texas Chili” which is called Best Damn Vegan Chili Ever.  Well!  I had to try that. It was very good!  I’m not sure I believe the claims that this chili is “award winning.”.  But to be fair, I did leave out two “optional” ingredients, pickled jalapenos and masa harina.  Mayne next time I’ll put those in and see if it wins any awards. I will say that my husband LOVED it!  We ate it for two dinners, and both times he exclaimed over how much he enjoyed it. Chili: Cincinatti, or Texas style? What are you reading now?

Fall Fun

I had a really nice, fall-ish weekend!  When I say “fall-ish,” I don’t mean I visited a pumpkin patch or went apple picking.  No, we don’t have that in Florida- although, I’m pretty sure it’s too early for those things just about everywhere right now.  But those are things that never happen in Florida, so we have to make our own fall. We may not have cool temperatures and falling leaves, but we do have football and homecoming!  Saturday night was our high school homecoming dance, and my daughter went with two of her friends, looking amazing in her new dress.  I got a lot of GREAT comments on my post about the suit vs. dress dilemma, including one from Julie saying that she wore a tux to her prom!  For this dance, my daughter wore a dress- who knows what will happen in the future. I dropped my daughter and her two friends at the dance, and I loved seeing all the kids dressed up.  I also loved that these three girls didn’t feel like they needed dates- they were happy to be going together.  I was excited that it was my daughter’s first high school dance. I was also excited that after the dance, another mom was picking the girls up and bringing them back to her house for a sleepover.  I knew that my daughter would be in good hands and I knew she would have fun- and my job was done for the night. I got home just in time for the start of the Baylor game.  It was gloomy and rainy outside (a typical South Florida evening in September) and my house was so cozy!  We broke out the fall food and beverages. We tried each of the beers: the Oktoberfest was very good; the Pumpking Ale was okay, and the Howling Gourds was terrible.  The only one we actually finished was the Oktoberfest.  It turns out some things just shouldn’t taste like pumpkin, and beer is one of them.  But it was fun to try them all. I LOVE chips and salsa, but don’t normally eat them.  It’s one of those thing I can’t stop eating once I start, so I usually don’t let myself start.  But I made an exception since they were “fall-themed” (holiday foods don’t really count, right???) and I loved them.  The pepita salsa is delicious, and chips are always good.  Plus they looked like fall leaves! We also had this: It was good.  I mean- it was good for a prepared dinner.  Elaborate cooking wasn’t in my plan for this night, so we definitely enjoyed these “heat and serve” enchiladas. We watched Baylor win, and oh yes- I was wearing my new favorite pajamas. After the game, I stayed up late reading, and finally crawled into bed, knowing that there was no work or school tomorrow, and no one would be needing me for anything.  I could sleep as late as I wanted, and didn’t wake up until 9 am.  It felt AMAZING. After a nice slow start to the morning, Sunday got underway.  I picked up my daughter, did the grocery shopping, and started thinking about plans for the week.  I felt a little melancholy that the weekend was coming to an end.  Sometimes everything just comes together perfectly.  I know there will be more fun times this fall, but it’s possible that I’ll look back and say “Yes, that was the best night of the whole season.” Are you starting to think about fall, or are you still in a summer frame of mind? Pumpkin ale- yay, or nay?

Weekly Rundown- Everything is Awesome!

I don’t want to say this injury is behind me, because that would be tempting fate a little too much.  But let’s just say “Everything is Awesome” from The Lego Movie has been running through my head, and life seems good!  I’m linking up as always with Kim and Deborah for this Weekly Rundown.  Here’s how it all played out… Sunday I walked one mile and ran 3. Everything felt good! Monday I did lower body strength at home, including single leg exercises and squats.  One of the (few) things I’m proud of from my work this summer is the progress I made in the one leg sit-to-stand.  It’s one of the foundation exercises on Sally McRae’s app and also one of the hip stability exercises from Brad Beer’s book.  You start sitting on a chair or bench, and stand up using one leg, then sit back down, stand up again, etc. only on one leg.  When I first started I could only do five reps on each leg- now I can do 36 reps!!!  At least something has improved. I also did Caroline Girvan’s deadbug workout..  I’m really tired of it by now! Tuesday I walked 3 miles… … and then did a different core workout!  I did Caroline Girvan’s Standing Abs Workout, and I liked it.  At least, I liked doing something different. Wednesday Again, I walked one mile and ran 3.  Still feeling good! Thursday I did my single leg exercises, and another core workout.  This one Engie recommended, MadFit Standing Core Workout..  I liked this one too!  Then I had time for 20 minutes of walking. At night we watched the Dolphins game, which was a complete fiasco.  We lost, and our quarterback got ANOTHER CONCUSSION.  The poor guy will be out for… ever?  The rest of the season?  I feel really bad for him, and now our season is a shambles after only the second game. Friday Gym day!  It was a very squat-focused workout, because I skipped deadlifts.  My low back is nagging at me again, and deadlifts sadly make it worse.  After squats and Bulgarian split squats I did some core (abs and low back machines.) At night I planned to go to our high school football game, but it rained so much that the band couldn’t play (so I didn’t go.)  They did manage to play in the rain and our team won!  This was our homecoming, and last year’s homecoming was completely rained out.  September outdoor events just shouldn’t be a thing in South Florida. Saturday This was a big day- I walked one mile and ran 4!!!  I’m getting there! At night we watched the Baylor game.  FINALLY.  A game where it didn’t rain, no one got injured, and we WON!  At least the football week ended on a high note. Sunday Off!  Sleeping in and waffles will be involved (obviously.) So, it was a good week.  Moving forward, I’m going to cautiously try running every other day.  Running every third day was great to get me back from this injury, but I can’t do that forever! How was your week?  Were there any moments where you sang “Everything is Awesome?” Top photo by Stainless Images on Unsplash

Friday Coffee Date!

Hey, it’s Friday!  Pour yourself a beverage in your favorite fall mug (wait- you do have one, right?) and join me. Let’s talk about the weekend!  Tonight is another high school football game, and I will be there.  The last two weeks have been away games, so I’ve missed going.  But you know what that means- it’s time for Homecoming!  My daughter decided to go to the dance with a group of friends, and we started thinking about what she would wear.  But let’s back up for a moment… The high school concert band uniform is tuxes for the boys and long black dresses for girls.  When my daughter was a freshman last year, she said she would prefer to wear a tux. Now, I wasn’t entirely opposed to this, but I just preferred that she wear a dress… like all the other girls?  I told her that whatever she decided to do was fine, but there’s a reason boys usually wear suits and girls usually wear dresses.  Girls are more curvy, so dresses flatter them more.  My daughter is very curvy, and I thought a tux would just make her look kind of big all over. She decided to wear the dress, and I thought she looked lovely!  Then I was telling my friend about how well I handled that situation, and she thought I was VERY WRONG.  Why, she asked, did it matter how she looked?  Why did I make that the most important thing? Er- good question.  When it was time for New Year’s, my daughter wanted to wear a suit to the party.  I agreed immediately, and she actually looked kind of cute (not that it mattered!) Later I asked how she liked wearing the suit, and she said “I loved it.  I felt really confident.”  Okay then. Back to Homecoming!  My daughter said she wanted to wear a suit, and we got to work on her outfit (I was tasked with finding her some new pants, which was surprisingly hard.) Then yesterday she went to the mall to help her friend find a dress, and came home with… a dress, which she is now wearing to Homecoming. You guys, I can’t keep up!  Girls are so hard!!!  Boys are so. much. easier. Anyway, while my daughter is at the dance on Saturday night, my husband and I will be watching the Baylor game!  I have a fun fall-themed dinner planned, with some new things to sample from Trader Joe’s. One last thing- I’ve submitted my request for postponement of jury duty.  Weirdly, the request had to be submitted in writing, and by that I mean I had to write a letter and mail it through the U.S. postal service.  When was the last time you did that? I was so confused.  I couldn’t even really remember how to do it.  When I printed out my letter, my husband looked at it and said “You didn’t leave room for your signature.”  Oh yeah- I totally forgot.  Then I had to find an envelope and a stamp, and take it to the mailbox… I mean, don’t we have more modern methods of communication nowadays?  Anyway, I hope it gets there, and I hope I get my postponement (actually, I’m hoping they forget all about me, but if worst comes to worst I’ll take a postponement.) That’s it for this week! When was the last time you mailed a letter?  I don’t mean a greeting card or postcard, but like an official letter?   Do you think I was wrong to encourage my daughter to wear a dress?  How much does appearance matter? What are your plans for the weekend? Top photo by Aaron Burden on Unsplash

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  1. Haven’t read any of those but my husband has read Piranesi and liked it a lot. I have given up on buying clothes for myself as everything is either massive and swooshy and swamping on a short woman or has bits carved out all over the place. I’m OK at home as I just wear yoga pants and plain men’s tshirts (cheaper and better quality than women’s!). But argh, indeed.

    1. Yes, I have had a lot of trouble buying regular clothes (not running clothes) for myself these days! I used to like Old Navy but now everything seems too young for me (sigh.)

  2. I LOLed when you bought yourself a cropped tank after rejected all of the them for her.. EVERYTHING is CROPPED. I have no recs. Except maybe All in Motion at Target?

  3. Piranesi was good! Really unusual and it took me a while to understand what was going on, but in the end I liked it. Haven’t read any of the others, and no suggestions on the clothing, I’m afraid, but I hope you can find some non-crop tops for her!

    1. Yes, the review I read made the book sounds kind of bizarre, but compelling. I’m looking forward to it.

  4. So many crop tops! My daughter really wants a crop top but I haven’t gotten her one yet — just out of laziness, I guess. Plus, it seems like maybe the events/locations where crop tops are acceptable would be limited? Maybe not; I know it’s the style. And I wore MANY a crop top when I was in high school, so it doesn’t faze me really.

    Two places that I have gotten non-crop tops for my daughter this summer are Old Navy and Target. I think J Crew Factory and Primary also have some regular length tanks, but I haven’t tried them on my kid yet.

    1. I took her to Old Navy but she didn’t like anything (sigh.) I really should try Target again though- she’s gotten other tops there (some graphic tees) and she likes them.

  5. There is such a disconnect between school dress codes and store offerings!

    I was going to ask if she’d wear Athleta tanks — did they have full-length ones? I have some full-lengths I got from Athleta ages ago. I need longer tops to keep Scooby’s running leash off my skin. 🙂

    1. I don’t know if she would wear Athleta- it may not be her style (she’s not very sporty, let’s just say.) Athleta definitely has full length ones though.

  6. Target/Mossimo used to have a couple of very standard long (regular) tank tops that I would buy all the time! I have not bought one in a while though. Also I don’t know if you have a Nordstrom Rack, but I always find good tank tops there. Or maybe she needs to shop in an older (gasp!) section rather than in the teen stores? I actually have not bought clothes in so long and basically live in running clothes most of the time (and luckily those tanks are not cropped) so maybe she would have some luck in the athletic section, or at a more athletic geared store?

    1. Hmm! We have a Nordstrom Rack- I’ll look there. And she’s not opposed to Target either, but last time I looked a LOT of the shirts were cropped. I”ll check it out though.

  7. I did know that everything is cropped now, as I have been on a mission to find myself some tank tops and every goddamn store I look at has nothing BUT cropped tops. Even my beloved lululemon no longer sells long tanks. I am just not willing to do that. I wore cropped tops back in the day but you know what, it’s a no for me now.
    The only thing I can think of is that at least jeans and pants are so high waisted now, that a crop top doesn’t show too much skin, in terms of dress code (do not get me started on how stupid I think dress codes are).

    1. Ha ha… that’s true. Most pants are high waisted. So maybe my daughter can get away with a longer crop in high school.

  8. I have so many thoughts about Ender’s Saga. THOSE BOOKS ARE ALL SO GOOD (well, maybe not Exile). I think Speaker for the Dead might be the best book I’ve ever read, too, so that’s too bad your son read it so young. LOL. I really liked Xenocide, too, but it was at this point in the series where knowing about OSC and his personal beliefs really interfered with my enjoyment of the series. Regardless, they’re all worth reading and I’m going to leave you with an xkcd cartoon because it’s so relevant.
    https://xkcd.com/304/

  9. Someone gifted my daughter two cropped T-shirts…which I let her wear over a longer tank that she just tucks into her shorts/pants. The long tank is Old Navy brand, but I got it at a thrift store…so maybe all the Old Navy options are cropped now, too.

    Shockingly, I now own a crop-top set of PJs. It’s only when I raise my arms, but the set is SO comfortable, I overlooked the length of the shirt.

  10. Ugh, crop tops. I loathe them. I do not have the stomach to wear them. I understand that anyone CAN wear a crop top, though, but I would NOT feel comfortable in one. I recently bought some camis to wear under tops for work and after I had cut off the tags, I realized they are crop tops! What in the world! It doesn’t matter since I am wearing them as an under shirt when the shirt I am wearing is a bit too low cut (not that I wear many low cut shirts! But some have a slit at the neck and it’s just a little too, um, showy for a professional situation… but to be clear, there is no cleavage to show since I don’t have any!). I feel like a crop top is a very uncomfortable shirt length. I’d prefer something a little bit too long that I could potentially tuck in versus something very short!

    That is so fun that you and your son are reading the same book(s)! It would be really fun to discuss a book with my child. I look forward to those days! I can’t wait until he’s old enough for me to introduce HP and some of my other faves, like the Roald Dahl books. And it’s just overall awesome that your son is choosing to read as a college aged student!!! That is parenting goals for me!

    1. You’re not too far from Roald Dahl! Harry Potter will probably have to wait a little. Because he wanted me to, I started reading my son the Harry Potter books when he was four. We both loved them… until we got to Goblet of Fire and I realized they had gotten WAY too mature for him! We stopped (I had to pretend the next one wasn’t available at our library) and came back to them several years later.
      I definitely fall into the category of people who “can” wear tank tops but probably shouldn’t, ha ha. I only wear them for running (and it’s a matter of survival.) I wouldn’t wear them as regular clothes!

      1. No I would say you for sure fall into the category of people who not only can wear crop tops but look in them!

        I am thinking we will check out a Roald Dahl book soon. Surely they will be better than our recent experience with Stuart Little!!

  11. It’s so weird… for a while tank tops used to be overly long (which I liked, although I don’t scoff at a nice crop top either)… why aren’t there both choices though? It’s ridiculous.

  12. I’m glad I don’t have to negotiate the teenage girl’s clothes buying anymore. My girls didn’t like wearing anything too skimpy. Yes, finding non-crop tops and shorts that cover their butt cheeks was a challenge.

    I read Ender’s Game a while ago and planned to read further into the series but subsequently forgot. Thanks for the reminder to move it up my TBR pile.

    1. The next book after Ender’s Game- which is actually the first book of the Ender Saga- is SO GOOD. Better (and different) than Ender’s Game. I’m loving it.

  13. Jenny, I completely understand this frustration! I can’t even find any good workout shirts at Target because EVERYTHING IS A CROP TOP. I don’t want to wear a crop top when I’m working out! Old Navy has some good options, but I see from your comment replies that she didn’t like ON, so whomp. That’s a hard battle! I get that crop tops are in now, but some of us don’t want to show off our bellies when we’re trying to buy groceries, ya know?!

  14. I’m in the same boat as your daughter – no to crop tops, thanks. But, unlike her, I prefer the sportier, longer stuff from Old Navy. That and the thrift shop (which, around here, sells a TON of Lands End, ha) are my primary sources of clothing. I was going to suggest TJ Maxx, if you have one, but I suspect she’s off to camp already, dress codes be darned…

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